Is My Boyfriend Cheating on Me?
Every relationship has its ups and downs. But some downs are deeper than others. The following was written to help you answer the question of “is my boyfriend cheating on me?” I hope the answer is no, but if he is demonstrating the actions listed below he probably is.
Think back to how you met your boyfriend. If you found him at the tail-end of a relationship or “stole” him away from someone else you need to be constantly vigilant to him cheating on you. Once a cheater, always a cheater is very sage advice that I beg you heed.
Habits are easy to form and very difficult to break. If the behavior patterns of your boyfriend suddenly change an alarm signal should go off. The oldest, most used and least accepted excuse for not being around is “I had to work late”. That excuse is so old that it has become almost an admission of guilt. Substitutes for “I had to work late” have become, going camping/fishing/hunting with the guys. If he didn’t do these things before, why is he doing them now?
The change can be a positive one, though. For example, some men will feel so guilty about their lady on the side that they will begin showering you with gifts and attention. This is an effort for them to explain away their actions to themselves, by showing that when they are with you it’s so good that it doesn’t matter what they do away from you.
He may receive phone calls and text messages when you are around. But he may not want to talk about it or tell who it was and try to keep his personal things away from you. He may start being a closed person and stop being open about his day and friends. He may not give enough time to you and keep himself busy.
If he is spending all of his time on the internet, or reading emails that he hides from you, are bad signs. The internet has seen an explosion of dating/hook-up sites that he could be prowling. If you walk by the computer and he begins frantically closing windows you have a good indication that Mr. Wonderful is actually Mr. Sleazeball.
Does your boyfriend have friends who are never too busy for him when you aren’t around but never have time to join the both of you at parties or other events? This interpersonal dynamic isn’t healthy and could be a clear indicator that something is going on that you really should know about.
In an attempt to deflect your suspicions, he may accuse you of cheating. Cheaters tend to be the first to think that their partners are testing the waters. If you have given him no reason to doubt your intentions, but are being accused it could be a sign that you need to look for some of the other that your boyfriend is cheating on you.
Any one of the individual issues raised above can be completely innocent. Ay combination of them should raise warning signals. It is entirely your choice whether to accept your boyfriend’s behavior or end the relationship. There is only one person who can make that decision and that is you. If you can accept the behavior and don’t wish to invest the time and effort in finding a new boyfriend that’s your choice. The possibility does exist however that if he is cheating, then the your situation may only get worse bringing more heartache and trauma to your relationship. I hope you now know the answer to is my boyfriend cheating on me!
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